Monday, August 17, 2020

Quotes to Quote

                                                              Quotes to Quote


This section is close to my heart and is never ending one!! It consists of various motivational quotes which I find to uplift my spirits and motivate to stay strong!! 

I may or may not know the writer of the quote but I respect the writer to influence many with their words!! Please quote quotes in comments which have touched you in some ways and also mention the author if you know of the quotes I mentioned.

Here starts the list :


1) DO IT - Nike

2) If it does not challenge you

    Then it does not change you!!

3) Change is the ONLY constant!!

4) करत-करत अभ्यास के जड़मति होत सुजान । रसरी आवत-जात के, सिल पर परत निशान ।। - This one I learnt in my school days and is still with me!!

Tuesday, August 11, 2020

Food and People

Hi All,

Hope you are healthy!!

This blog post is about how magically food and people are intertwined!!

India is a country of diversity!! Not only in terms of religion but also languages, subcultures, food, rituals,crafts and attire and the list is huge. You must have heard this "Ghat Ghat pe pani badle Kos Kos pe Vani". Recently, whole of India celebrated the love of brother and sister relationship as Rakhshabandhan. Every part of India must have made something special on the celebration.
 Though, me and my brother are miles apart from each other and video calls tried to fill the geographical gap between us. This Rakhshabandhan, I not only missed my brother for tieing rakhi on his hand but also missed my parents too.

We look forward for festive seasons so that we all can be with our friends and family and celebrate and dive into sumptuous food. Most of the dishes are peculiarly made on the festive days and not on the rest of year. Hence, we all can reminiscence the sweet smells with the time of year and to the culture behind and most importantly People who made them.

            One of the best experiences I been having lately is loving all the delicacies which my Aai used to make in my childhood. Why?? Because, now I know that there are many cities between us and we cannot reach to each other without huge planning. So it is the food which brings all her warmth to me. Honestly, I do not like sweet dishes and hence did not eat lot of  festive delicacies back then. But now that, I am far away from my parents and trying to uplift the legacy of mothers established in the form of food, culture, rituals and trying to cultivate the true essence of  festivals for my child.

                         On every festival now I am inclined towards making the traditional delicacies and magically seeing myself to cherish the sweet dishes. This is nothing but coming closer to my parents. Experiencing the same smell, taste(I know I can never meet hers and mother- in -law's) makes me feel her closeness to me every time. 

Food and people are inseparable and it is not just the dish which the next generation makes but instill the love and respect of  elder ones. 

Anytime I cook anything traditional, it always gives me the warmth and security of love which I make sure to forward to next generation ❤❤ By the way, I made 'nararli bhat (Coconut Rice - a sweet dish)'

                        Certain tastes of life come later with the age!!!


                        











Friday, June 12, 2020

2 Minute Rule

Namaste,

Hope you all are safe and sound!!

Today's blog post is all about how one can Procrastinate the Procrastination.

Before I confuse you further, see what a 2 minute rule states : When you start a new habit, it should take less than 2 minutes to do.

This rule is basically applicable for all of us who are one day super productive while on other days are lazy potatoes and procrastinating every single task at hand. 2 Minutes Rule helps to get rid of procrastinating, getting things done timely and avoid being lazy. 

Currently, Thanks to Mr. Corona everybody is locked under the house with no house helps around plus the busy schedules and I seriously pray for couples who both work and have little kids(little devils). Many a times we juggle and juggle from chore A to B to Zoom Meetings to Awaz nahi aa rahi hai aapki to washing dishes to arre sanitizer to lagao and in between saving laptops from devils running around in the house. At least, this is how my house looks on weekdays.

Washing dishes thrice a day
Laundry a day
Making snacks for the 100th of time a day and endless

The juggling of duties to the chaos in the house pushes us to not do certain task which are not necessary right now but if not done creates a mess.

Initially, when the lock down started I was washing utensils either once or twice a day and accumulating every cup of chai I had. Every unused spoon my munchkin thinks is his toys and make them unusable by sophisticated people and finally they land up into the sink.

End of the day I was left with unlimited unwashed utensils (jaise bhandhara bulaya ho). But in a couple of days I realized that this is taking a toll on me and I am procrastinating going into the kitchen, I am being lazy because somewhere I was struck with the thought that a pile of dishes are had to be cleaned and I don't want to do it but there is no option than doing.

Now, here comes in picture our 2 Minutes Rule :  As per 2 minute rule, do any activity then and there which takes less than or 2 minutes to finish. Like, washing that cup of chai. 

Like :

Want to resolve an office issue long due -  start by adding it in to do's list
Want to start reading a book - start with one or two pages a day
Want to update your resume - start with switching on your laptop
Want to start reading newspaper - start with a one news a day
Want to do laundry but keep procrastinating - start then and there by taking laundry basket to washing area as soon as you take bathe 
Want to start going to the gym - start by putting your gym clothes
want to make your bed as soon as you wake up - do it then and there as it literally takes less than 2 minutes but if not done immediately then you know and I know how boring and improper the room looks for the rest of the time and every time u see unmade bed - the feeling is uhh!!!

The point here is to make your start easiest to complete the process and in no time you realize that it is part of your life. Nobody wants to read a single page for their lifetime as a habit but this exercise will help you gradually to make your habit the strongest and you will stop procrastinating them. 

I have taken examples from management of daily chores but this 2 minutes rule literally helped me in my various aspects of life. It keeps you prompt. on point and cancel the delays

I hope this article will help you in some ways. It has helped me

Please come back to read more and let me know in comments what you think about and shed some light if I have missed anything in here!!

Stay Safe


Thursday, April 16, 2020

Books I love!!

Hi All,

There are certain books that I enjoyed reading. I am always interested in reading books as it takes you to the another world. Sometimes, it breaks your heart, sometimes happy ending..and sometime you never know what is served on your plate!! My observations says that, books with saddening ends have far more better impact on one than to happy endings.

People say you can escape reality if you read books.

First let's grab a cup of chai. Here,I am mentioning a few books that I loved a lot and the hangover is real!!

1) The Boy in the Striped Pajamas by John Boyne - I am still not healed from this recent read of mine. The book is a work of fiction and based on Holocaust. It takes you on the journey with a nine year old boy. What a read it was for me. Mind you, there are some people who hated or disliked the book.Very few in moderation. The book brings out strong emotional reaction from the reader!! That's the beauty of book and reader. We all perceive differently!!

2) I've Never Been (UN)Happier by Shaheen Bhatt -  This is written by Shaheen Bhatt(sister of Alia Bhatt..Bollywood rag rag mei busa hai na humare) on depression and mental health. Shaheen shares ups and mostly downs of her life starting from her childhood. She shares facts and information about mental health and how the society does not take it seriously because it is intangible. I did not thoroughly enjoyed reading it as some parts were typically boring to me but overall it is kind of must reads!!

3) We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie - More than all the ladies I want all the males must read this gem. She has beautifully explained that being a feminist is not being a  man-hater!! Many of us have a wrong understanding of feminism in our cute little head. Please read this to know that we all are HUMANS and deserve equality.

4) Wonder by R.J. Palacio - Ohh my my!! Loved reading..loved the fact that I got to read you. The so called "perfects" in the universe are fighting for so little. There are many warriors on this planet earth. It changed me in so many ways!! This book is about a boy who has facial deformity and how he has to deal with it more on the social front.

Now, this is getting hard here. I still have many books to jot down here and we are already on number 5. Acha, let it be..jab pyaar kiya to darna kya.. Let me mention a few more. I promise they are worth giving a read.

5) The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini- The book is written so beautifully that I still have strong images of the characters. I read it atleast 7-8 years ago but still cant get over it. This is a heart breaking tale of two boys who unfortunately/fortunately belong to different categories created by society.

6) The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night Time by Mark Haddon- I loved reading this because my not so cute but surely little head got to know about Autism. Different!!

7) Room by Emma Donoghue - The beauty of this work of fiction was I never realised while reading. But it hit me hard once I became a mother of a seriously cute little munchkin. We are so unaware of the surroundings that such unfortunate events happen in our vicinity and still we are so blinded.

Bus ab ye akhiri

8) The Time Traveler's wife by Audrey Niffenegger - Now about this book I have heard some not so good reviews and so so good reviews. So, I belong to the later part. All about time travelling. If you also want to time travel then buy a ticket and go with them. Today, April 2020 has a lockdown and national and international travels are banned due to bin bulaye mehman Mr.Coronavirus and hence you are not even allowed to go anywhere isliye go with the couple in their time travelling journey ghar baithe baithe.
I loved them❤💕

Thank You for investing your time on what I loved reading.

Let me know that if you happen to love the same or hate or whatever!!

Keep reading!!
Keep sanity soaring!!

Please share if you find worth sharing!!

Friday, April 10, 2020

LOCKDOWN Stay Home Stay Safe








The view is of IT park. No hustle today unlike ages!!

Rest all a little and cherish this moment with gratitude. 

Be grateful if you are not worried for the food you are served DAILY.
Be grateful if none of your dear ones need to go outside to meet ends.
Be grateful if your near and dear ones are not infected.
Be grateful that you will get your full salary once the quarantine is over. 

So rest a little. 
Because we have a shelter to stay away 🙏🏻

One fine day, this all will be over and we all be allowed to go out.. resume our corporate life of tags and codes and you will once again be keen on ‘Kab ye client call khatam ho aur me ghar bhagu’

Har ghadi badal rahi hai roop zindagi
Chaav hai kabhi kabhi hai dhoop zindagi
Har paal ise ji lo jara
Jo hai sama kal ho na ho

Staying at Home is NOT Boring 
It is a NEED of the hour🙏🏻

Ghar per raho
Swasth raho aur swasth rehne do🙏

Friday, January 3, 2020

Book Review: My sister, The Serial Killer




This story takes place in today’s era where you see characters using social media platforms. Protagonist here is an elder sister whose younger sister is a serial killer. It is a short and precise story based in Nigeria where two sisters along with their mother live. Not to my surprise, they have been in an abusive relationship with their father. They have seen abuse in their parent’s relation as well.

The younger sister Ayoola is an eye candy and entices every male who sees her. But the elder sister, Korede, is way too matured and protective of her family. She is a cleanliness freak where as Ayoola is a mess. You will not see Korede’s phone charger tangled!! I promise!! Haha But but, you will not be able to find anything in place in Ayoola’s room. That’s how the story goes: Ayoola creates mess, Korede cleans it up for Ayoola.

Ayoola calls her sister every time she has murdered her boyfriend and Korede comes to save her from rotting in jail for her entire life. She does not take her sister to police because she is conditioned to protect her as an elder sister since childhood. Family comes first!! Isn’t we have seen the same chemistry in our families? Elder siblings to be always responsible for the younger ones.
One day Ayoola fixes her eyes on the Korede’s love and Korede is now aware and alarmed of the consequences!!

(Korede, if you are somewhere, please know I have my heart for you girl!!)

 Please read to know how it ends. I am basically not completely happy with the ending but nevertheless, this story is a good read.

The writing in the book is simple and in complete flow. The chapters are short and precise. If you have good reading speed, then you can finish in one go. It took me a couple of days to finish as I have to run around my toddler. Anyways, overall it is a good read!!

Point on the scale of 1 to 5 (1 being lowest and 5 being highest) = 3.5
Should read/Must read = Should read
Alluring Readers = All those who like thriller and suspense. Those who are thinking to start reading should definitely give it a try!

The above review is my opinion and the way I interpreted the novel. And, the world should agree to disagree. Hence, our liking and interpretations can entirely contradict. Please read and let me know whether you enjoyed reading it or not.

Plus, it was a gift to me from my Secret Santa!! (I know, aapko kya karna per fir bhi bata diya, Gratitude😊 )

Also, please suggest a few worth reading!!

Thank You and Keep reading blogs and books
Neha

Friday, October 18, 2019

Day Care - Really, Care??

Hello,

So I am quite disturbed since I saw  a video on the net where a couple of ladies are slapping a child with a chappal and taking turns to slap  the child!! WOW!!!

Finances, career, ambition are some, yet essential points which are taken into consideration when a mom decides to resume to her career.

Please, keep in mind that she is already fighting a zillions of odds and hoping that All Izz Well and she will not need to leave her job again.

Among various factors of concern, main concern is the security of the child and here comes the role of  Day-CARE. It is a place which is suppose to take good care of the children.

There are days when I am enjoying all lovie dovie talks with my little munchkin and then there are days where I want to go back to my job and earn for myself, my family. I am encouraging myself to prepare my resume and then I come across a gross video on social media where two ladies take turns to slap the kids with chappals!! This leaves me terrified for leaving my child in someone else custody for hours.

Please mind, the kids are not more than the age of 4-5 years.

The anger, the humiliation, the pain, the shame, the guilt I felt for the kid and his parents is beyond words.
I mean how dare she slap the child with chappals????

A child needs attention, patience and love the most.

Parents pay huge amount to these so called day cares and what they might get in return is something will be imbibed forever. How negatively this abuse can affect the innocence in childhood?? The thought of it makes me go sleepless in the night.

Why the day-care in western countries looks all lovie dovie and a day care in your own city is so terrifying??Because, they let their kids follow whatever they love to and not just to become an engineer and doctor. It is a vicious circle. People employed in day care, kindergarten, natal hospitals must be employed only on the basis of a professional degree which not only includes the science of it but also the emotional quotient.
And yes of course, strict law against any mishap.

All you need is love, passion and PATIENCE to handle a child.

There is NO recipe
There is NO rule
There is NO code
There is NO law

What I am trying to say to people who run day care is please do not employ person whose only need to work is earn a living out of it but also is passionate for the same. Because a child is not meant to be hit/abused.💔💔

P.S. : not saying that all day cares are bad but a single abuse is certainly heartbreaking and non acceptable.